REACTING TO EVERYTHING”

 *REACTING TO EVERYTHING”

I’m 'slowly' learning that I don’t have to react to 'everything' that bothers me.

I’m slowly learning that I don’t have to hurt those who hurt me.

I’m slowly learning that maybe the 'ultimate' sign of maturity is walking away instead of getting even.

I’m slowly learning that the energy it takes to react to every bad thing that happens to you drains you and stops you from seeing the other good things in life.

*I’m slowly learning that I’m not going to be everyone’s cup of tea and I won’t be able to get everyone to treat me the way I want to be treated 'and that’s okay.'*

*I’m slowly learning that trying so hard to ‘win’ anyone is just a 'waste' of time and energy and it fills you with 'nothing' but emptiness.*

*I’m slowly learning that not reacting doesn’t mean I’m okay with things, it just means I’m choosing to 'rise' above it. 

 I’m choosing my 'peace of mind' because that’s what I 'truly' need. I don’t need more drama. I don’t need people making me feel like I’m not good enough. I don’t need fights and arguments and 'fake' connections. I’m slowly learning that sometimes 'not' saying anything at all says everything.'

*I’m slowly learning that reacting to things that upset you gives someone else power over 'your' emotions.

 You can’t control what others do but you can control how you respond, how you handle it, how you perceive it and 'how much of it' you want to take personally. I’m slowly learning that most of the time, these situations say nothing about you and a lot about the other person. 

I’m slowly learning that even if I react, it won’t change anything, it won’t make people suddenly love and respect me, it won’t magically change their minds. 

*Sometimes it’s better to just let things be, let people go, 'don’t' fight for closure, 'don’t' ask for explanations, 'don’t' chase answers and 'don’t' expect people to understand where you’re coming from.*

I’m slowly learning that life is 'better lived' when you 'don’t' center it on what’s happening around you and 'center it on' what’s happening 'inside you' instead.

 'Work' on yourself and your inner peace and you’ll come to 'realize' that 'not' reacting to every little thing that bothers you is the 'first ingredient' to living a happy and healthy life.

Karan

 In Mahabharat, Karna asks Lord Krishna - "My mother left me the moment I was born. Is it my fault I was born an illegitimate child?```

```I did not get the education from Dhronacharya because I was considered a non-Kshatriya.```

```Parshu-Raam taught me but then gave me the curse to forget everything since I was a Kshatriya.```

```A cow was accidentally hit by my arrow & its owner cursed me for no fault of mine.```

```I was disgraced in Draupadi's swayamvar.```

```Even Kunti finally told me the truth only to save her other sons.```

```Whatever I received was through Duryodhana's charity.```

```So how am I wrong in taking his side?"```

*Lord Krishna replies,*

``` "Karna, I was born in a jail.*```

```Death was waiting for me even before my birth.```

```The night I was born I was separated from my birth parents.```

```From childhood, you grew up hearing the noise of swords, chariots, horses, bow, and arrows. I got only cow herd's shed, dung, and multiple attempts on my life even before I could walk!```

```No army, no education. I could hear people saying I am the reason for all their problems.```

```When all of you were being appreciated for your valour by your teachers I had not even received any education. I joined gurukula of Rishi Sandipani only at the age of 16!```

```You are married to a girl of your choice. I didn't get the girl I loved & rather ended up marrying those who wanted me or the ones I rescued from demons.```

```I had to move my whole community from the banks of Yamuna to far off Sea shore to save them from Jarasandh. I was called a coward for running away!!```

```If Duryodhana wins the war you will get a lot of credit. What do I get if Dharmaraja wins the war? Only the blame for the war and all related problems...```

*Remember one thing, Karna. Everybody has challenges in life.*

```LIFE IS NOT FAIR ON ANYBODY!!!```

```Duryodhana also has a lot of unfairness in life and so has Yudhhishthir.```

```But what is Right (Dharma) is known to your mind (conscience). No matter how much unfairness we got, how many times we were disgraced, how many times we were denied what was due to us, what is important is how you REACTED at that time.```

```Stop whining Karna. Life's unfairness does not give you license to walk the wrong path...```

*Always remember, Life may be tough at a point, but DESTINY is not created by the SHOES we wear but by the STEPS we take...*

Do not react on Every Opinion!!

 An elephant took a bath in a river and was walking on the road. When it neared a bridge, it saw a pig fully soaked in mud coming from the opposite direction. The elephant quietly moved to one side, allowed the dirty pig to pass and then continued its onward journey.

The unclean pig later spoke to its friends in arrogance, “See how big I am; even the elephant was afraid of me and moved to one side to let me pass”.

On hearing this, some elephants questioned their friend, the reason for its action. Was it out of fear??

The elephant smiled and replied, “I could have easily crushed the pig under my leg, but I was clean and the pig was very unclean. By crushing it, my leg will become dirty and I wanted to avoid it. Hence, I moved aside.”

*This story reveals :*

Realized souls will avoid contact with negativity not out of fear, but out of desire to keep away from impurity though they are strong enough to destroy the impurity.

You need not react to every opinion, every comment, or every situation.

Kick the drama and keep going ahead..😊😊

मनुष्य-और-पक्षी.....

 एक प्राचीन मंदिर की छत पर 

    कुछ कबूतर राजी-खुशी रहते थे.

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   जब वार्षिकोत्सव की तैयारी के लिये 

   मंदिर का जीर्णोद्धार होने लगा, तब 

        कबूतरों को मंदिर छोड़कर 

        पास के चर्च में जाना पड़ा.

   चर्च के ऊपर रहने वाले कबूतर भी 

             नये कबूतरों के साथ 

               राजी-खुशी रहने लगे.

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        क्रिसमस नज़दीक था, तो 

    चर्च का भी रंगरोगन शुरू हो गया. 

   अत: सभी कबूतरों को जाना पड़ा ...

      नये ठिकाने की तलाश में.

    किस्मत से पास की एक मस्जिद में 

       उन्हें जगह मिल गयी, और 

    मस्जिद में रहने वाले कबूतरों ने 

    उनका खुशी-खुशी स्वागत किया.

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            रमज़ान का समय आया,

          मस्जिद की भी साफ-सफाई 

            शुरू हो गयी, तो ... 

               सभी कबूतर वापस 

                 उसी प्राचीन मंदिर की

                   छत पर आ गये.

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      एक दिन मंदिर की छत पर बैठे 

           कबूतरों ने देखा, कि ... 

     नीचे चौक में धार्मिक उन्माद एवं 

       दंगे हो गये. छोटे से कबूतर ने 

             अपनी माँ से पूछा ~

         *माँ ! ये कौन लोग हैं ?*

   माँ ने कहा ~ *ये मनुष्य हैं.*

        छोटे कबूतर ने पूछा ~ माँ ! 

    ये लोग आपस में लड़ क्यों रहे हैं ?

         माँ ने कहा ~ 

       *जो मनुष्य मंदिर जाते हैं,*

          *वो हिन्दू कहलाते हैं.*

      *चर्च जाने वाले ईसाई, और*

          *मस्जिद जाने वाले*

             *मुस्लिम कहलाते हैं.*

       छोटा कबूतर ~ माँ ऐसा क्यों ? 

             जब हम मंदिर में थे,

       *तब हम कबूतर कहलाते थे.*

               चर्च में गये तब भी ...

             *कबूतर कहलाते थे,*

           और जब मस्जिद में गये , 

        *तब भी कबूतर कहलाते थे.*

            इसी तरह यह लोग भी ...

         *मनुष्य कहलाने चाहिये,*

            *चाहे कहीं भी जायें.*

               माँ बोली ~ 

         मैंने, तुमने और हमारे 

             साथी कबूतरों ने, 

       *उस एक ईश्वरीय सत्ता का*

       *अनुभव किया है, इसलिये ...*

         *हम इतनी ऊँचाई पर भी*

            *शाँतिपूर्वक रहते हैं.*

         इन लोगों को ... 

       *उस एक ईश्वरीय सत्ता का ...*

    *अनुभव होना बाकी है, इसलिये*

    *ये लोग हमसे नीचे रहते हैं, और*

     *आपस में दंगे-फसाद करते हैं.*

      👉   _बात छोटी सी है, पर ..._

                _मनन करने योग्य है._